A re-reflection into medical world

It's almost time to rethink and reconsinder seriously about the future.

Why in the first place, you choose to stay on this track?

While maybe in the first place entering medical world is not something that comes truly from the bottom of your heart - maybe its your parents dream to see you becoming a doctor, maybe just because it happens to be that medicine is the 'best' choice for your good SPM results, or maybe you just took medicine because you yourself doesn't really know what you want in life back then, whatever the reasons are that make you took the first step into medical school, you seriously have to re-reflect back your main reason why you are taking this path.

After almost 3-4 years in medical school, have you not find the reasons why you choose to stay, even when your heart is not fully in medicine? Do you want to waste another 2-3 years in medical school regretting your choice and keep performing poorly, whether physically in your academics or mentally / emotionally?

Get up and be responsible of your own life and future. No one's gonna care for you, it's you who are going to determine what kind of future that you will embrace ahead. What you choose today, will determine what you will get tomorrow.

As for me, all of the dozens of reasons to 'why don't I quit', I prefer to make a list of 'why I have to stay'. I'm searching reasons of why am I choosing this very path?

If you cannot get what you like, you gotta like what you get. Be grateful and believe firmly, Allah knows why He puts you in this very position. What's left is for you to search by yourself - why?

Dive into yourself, identify your potentials and weaknesses. Make a good mental image of yourself, the successful you in the future. Rebuild your dreams and hopes, and strive to achieve them. Nurture love in what you do now, develop passion and be patient!

Medical world is surely a long journey. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Keep running along but make sure that you're not burn out during the whole process.

All the best to you, myself! May Allah eases and blesses your journey in this medical world. You're gonna be great muslimah doctor in the future, just believe in yourself and keep on moving!

This worldly life

THIS WORLDY LIFE (MAHER ZAIN)

How beautiful, is this worldly life
But not a soul shall remain
We all come into this world
Only to leave it one day
I can see that everything around me
Rises then fades away
Life is just a passing moment
Nothing is meant to stay, oh

[Chorus:]
This worldly life has an end
And it's then real life begins
A world where we will live forever
This beautiful worldly life has an end
It's a just bridge that must be crossed
To a life that will go on forever

So many years, quickly slipping by
Like the Sleepers of the Cave
Wake up and make a choice
Before we end up in our graves
O God! You didn't put me here in vain
I know I'll be held accountable for what I do
This life is just a journey
And it's taking me back to You

[Chorus:]
This worldly life has an end
And it's then real life begins
A world where we will live forever
This beautiful worldly life has an end
It's a just bridge that must be crossed
To a life that will go on forever

So many get caught in this beautiful web
Its gardens become an infatuation
But surely they'll understand at the final stop
That its gardens are meant for cultivation, oh

[Chorus:]
This worldly life has an end
And it's then real life begins
A world where we will live forever
This beautiful worldly life has an end
It's a just bridge that must be crossed
To a life that will go on forever

Allah heals

"All human beings will suffer emotionally traumatizing experience. 

This particular ayah for me, is an ayah of great hope, because when people get scarred, people get emotionally damage, then they feel that they will never ever be recovered and move on with life again.

Musa's mother, had the colossal test of taking her baby and putting the baby in the water. That is not even an imaginable thing a mother can do.

Musa's mother's heart was emptied out.

And Allah said, "And the heart of Moses' mother became empty [of all else]. She was about to disclose [the matter concerning] him had We not bound fast her heart that she would be of the believers." [Al-Qasas 28:10]

He calm her heart down and brought it to the normal state.

We as human beings don't have the ability to emotionally recover sometimes, but we're learning in this ayah that Allah has the ability to let it heals and move on.

Imaan (faith in Allah) is enough for you to be able to move on with your life. Allah will intervene into our emotional states.

Whatever emotional trauma you are going through, know that Allah can intervene and give you peace of mind, peace of heart. And He can give you tranquility again.

Whatever things that have scarred you, Allah can remove that scar entirely.

I pray that you are able to ask Allah for that genuine removal of scar and that Allah gives you that firmness of heart so you can be from those who truly believe and can live a healthy spiritual and emotional life."

- Nouman Ali Khan, Quranic Gems Juz 20 ♥ :')

Tundukkan hatimu

Marriage, Tempations & Responsibilities

A sister asked Sheikh Mirza Yawar Baig a question regarding marriage; This was his response.

Question:

I want to get married to this man in my university who says that the best thing for him is to get married to get out of the temptations that surround him. He is still a student on scholarship and has no income or career. What is your advice?

Answer:

جزاك اللهُ خيراً for your question. My advice is that you learn to eat grass. If you marry someone without an income, that is what you will need to be able to do at some point. Sorry to be rude – but as George Bernard Shaw said, ‘You must never be afraid to offend people because that is the only time that they listen.’ So I hope you are offended and can wake up from the hormone induced dream that you are in before it turns into a nightmare.

For a man to be suitable to marry, you must look for three things:

(Psychology) Fasa perkembangan psikososial Erikson 1

Alhamdulillah summer sem ini diizinkan untuk mengambil subjek Behavioral Science / Psychology. Subhanallah, sangat menarik! insyaAllah nak share sedikit sebanyak apa yang telah dipelajari :)

Human Development Theory - Erikson's stages of psychosocial development

Menurut Erikson, terdapat 8 fasa dalam perkembangan psikososial seseorang yang akan mempengaruhi personalitinya. Setiap fasa adalah kritikal, dan perlu diberi perhatian sewajarnya oleh para ibu bapa terutamanya ketika perkembangan anak-anak mereka.

Jom kita tengok apa fasa-fasa tersebut :)

1) Trust vs Mistrust (Birth - 2 years)

Ketika ini bayi mula belajar soal harapan. Mereka akan bergantung sepenuhnya kepada ibu bapa untuk kelangsungan hidup dan keselesaan.

Oleh itu penting pada fasa ini untuk ibu bapa memberikan perhatian dan kasih sayang yang cukup, kerana ia akan membuatkan si anak melihat dunia sebagai sebuah tempat yang boleh dipercayai.

Kegagalan ibu bapa untuk membekalkan persekitaran yang 'selamat' serta memenuhi keperluan asasi anak akan menyebabkan anak hilang rasa percaya, yang seterusnya akan mengakibatkan kekecewaan, curiga, memencilkan diri dan kirang keyakinan diri (paranoid personality)

2) Autonomy vs Shame & Doubt (2-4 years)

Autonomi: kemahiran dan perasaan bertanggungjawab dan dapat menguasai diri sendiri.

Pada fasa ini, kanak-kanak akan mula belajar untuk melakukan semuanya sendiri tanpa bantuan orang lain. Mereka ketika ini sangat suka untuk meneroka dunia dan sentiasa belajar tentang dunia sekeliling. Mereka ingin memakai baju sendiri, makan menggunakan tangan atau sudu, menggunakan tandas tanpa bantuan dan sebagainya.

Kesabaran dan galakan dari ibu bapa akan membantu anak-anak untuk memupuk sifat autonomi ini. Jika tidak, anak-anak akan membina sifat ragu-ragu tentang keupayaan dirinya sendiri.

Jadi, jika anda mempunyai anak pada usia ini, galakkan mereka untuk melakukan aktiviti harian mereka tanpa bantuan, dan jangan dihalang saintis muda ini apabila mereka ber-eksperimen. Yang penting para ummi dan abi kena sabar lah ye bila anak-anak mereka sepahkan rumah, pecahkan barang dan conteng dinding. Kan rumah adalah medan untuk para ulama cilik itu membesar dan belajar? ;)

3) Initiative vs Guilt (4-5 years)

4) Industry vs Inferiority (5-12 years)

5) Identity vs Role Confusion (13-19 years)

6) Intimacy vs Isolation (20-40 years)

7) Generativity vs Stagnation (40-64 years)

8) Integrity vs Despair (Late adulthood, 65-death)

Ibu, Aku Sayang Kamu (I)

Tiada kecintaan yang selayaknya ditumpahkan selepas cinta kepada Allah dan Rasul melainkan untuk bonda dan ayahanda tercinta. Tanpa mereka, siapalah kita.

Mari bersama belajar menyuburkan rasa cinta  buat permata hati kita, yang telah banyak berkorban dan membesarkan kita selama ini dengan penuh cinta dan kasih sayang. Semoga Allah merahmati kedua ibu bapa kita di dunia dan akhirat.

InsyaAllah saya akan berkongsi beberapa isi menarik yang dicedok dari buku 'Sejuta Cinta untuk Ibunda', karya Burhan Sodiq. Semoga kita semua diizinkan Allah dan diberi kekuatan untuk menjadi anak yang soleh, ameen :)

Permata Ayah Bonda

"Tidaklah seorang anak yang soleh apabila melihat ibu bapanya dengan pandangan kasih sayang, melainkan Allah akan menuliskan untuknya bagi setiap pandangan tersebut dengan pahala haji mabrur" [Hadith Riwayat Al-Baihaqi]

Selamat pulang ke pangkuan keluarga tercinta di Malaysia buat sahabat-sahabat mahasiswa mahasiswi di Jordan. Semoga kita dapat menyantuni serta berkhidmat dengan penuh setia dan cinta buat kedua ibu bapa tercinta kita.

Mungkin dulu kita banyak berdosa dengan mereka, melukai mereka tanpa sedar, justeru kepulangan ini mohonlah ampun dengan mereka dari segala kesalahan-kesalahan kita.

Mungkin selama ini kita hanya melayan mereka biasa-biasa sahaja, 'taking them for granted', maka selama masih ada peluang ini berikan layanan yang terbaik, hargai mereka sehingga mereka terasa merekalah insan yang paling istimewa dalam hidup kita.

Mungkin sebelum ini kita kurang arif tentang adab dan seni meraikan ibu bapa, tidak ada ilmu untuk menjadi anak yang soleh menurut acuan Islam, atau tidak punya kesedaran, tetapi kini kita sudah tahu, mahu dan mampu membahagiakan mereka, maka praktikkanlah.

Manfaatkan detik berharga bersama mereka, dan raihlah kebahagiaan, keberkatan, pahala serta keredhaan berpanjangan dariNya :)

Pulanglah, dan sayangi keluargamu!

"Ummi, Abah, redhailah anakmu ini..."

Bahagiakanlah Dia

Ku persembahkan kepadaMu
Yang terindah dalam hidupku

Meski ku rapuh dalam langkah
Kadang tak setia kepadaMu
Namun cinta dalam jiwa
Hanyalah padaMu

Maafkanlah bila hati
Tak sempurna mencintaiMu
Dalam dada ku harap hanya
Dirimu yang bertakhta

Detik waktu terus berlalu
Semua berakhir padaMu

- Opick, Rapuh

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hzIkxwozfH8

Positif!

You are powerful when you believe in yourself – when you know that you are capable of anything you put your mind to. 

You are beautiful when your strength and determination shines as you follow your own path – when you aren't disheveled by the obstacles along the way. 

You are unstoppable when you let your mistakes educate you, as your confidence builds from experiences – when you know you can fall down, pick yourself up, and move forward.

-Marcandangel-

Batching: Save Time & Cut Stress

Great articles copy-pasted from [here]

How Does Batching Work?

Collect up a group of similar activities and do them all at the same time. This is the main principle behind batching. You could collect up all your e-mail answering, household chores, reading assignments or phone calls and do them at one time.

Why Does Batching Work?

1. It reduces start-up and slow-down time. The time it takes to load your e-mail inbox might not seem like much, but it adds up over time. Even worse is the mental delay it takes to switch from doing one type of task to another.
2. It reduces daily clutter. Instead of having seven individual writing times throughout my week I only have two. Instead of having several scans of my inbox each day, I have one. Instead of doing my assignments in pieces, I do them in one session.
3. It improves focus. As you work for longer on a task, you can begin to enter flow. Flow is the state of mind where work becomes easy and distractions melt away. Successful batching is like meditation for your work.

Sweethearts

"Those who cannot tolerate your worst do not deserve your best"

Ahli Bayt tercinta, tulang belakang saya sepanjang kembara di bumi urdun ini. Mereka lah yang mengetahui sisi nakal, comot, buruk saya, tetapi tetap setia bersama. Dalam suka dan duka, mereka sentiasa ada disisi, menjadi saksi perubahan diri dalam meniti hari-hari dewasa.

Mereka bukan hanya sekadar teman dan sahabat, tetapi sudah dianggap sebagai sebahagian dari jantung hati dan darah daging saya.

Uhibbukunna fillah! Semoga Allah mencintai kalian lebih dari cintanya aku kepada kalian. Dan semoga kalian sentiasa bahagia dibawah limpahan rahmat dan hidayahNya.

Selamanya di hati - Casa Solehah ♥

*ni kalau tatap lepas grad, mahu nangis sorang-sorang sebab rindu. Sekarang ni pun dah sebak kalau pikir macam mana keadaan bila diorang balik nanti,wuuu T_T